As an anxiety specialist, I get a lot of clients asking me about how to address sexual issues; these are both men and women. There seems to be a lot of pressure on sex these days – whether it’s to have it in the first place or to be good at it, sometimes we end up thinking about it so much that we just seem to forget about enjoying the experience.
When we overthink such a simple biological act, its takes away the spontaneity and the enjoyment, but it can be very difficult to just turn off these thoughts, we can’t just tell our brain to be quiet – and this interference can lead to all kinds of upsets in the bedroom.
How Can Hypnotherapy Help?
So how do I go about making changes, well it can be important to look at why our subconscious mind has these insecurities and anxious thoughts, sometimes an ex or current lover’s feedback can knock our confidence, sometimes stress can stop us from getting the most out of sex and other times it can even be something more traumatic. There is always a reason for your subconscious minds actions – its job is to protect us! Sometimes this can cause problems but the subconscious really does mean well. So it is our job to sometimes explore what has happened so we can help the subconscious mind to put it in the past and allow you to move forward, but we don’t always have to do this though, sometimes it is just a case of retraining the brain.
We can sometimes get so caught up in thinking about what to do next or even about that important meeting tomorrow that it puts us off and it puts pressure on us, so what can we do to help this? Well we look at training your mind to focus on what is happening in the moment. We focus your attention on your favourite parts of your partner, what their hair smells like, what their hands feel like, whatever suits you so that you can really start to focus on enjoying what is happening there and then. This was you can really enjoy what is happening around you, you focus on letting in the sounds, smells, feelings and you forget about the thoughts that have been blocking you from getting the most out of this great part of life.
This means that we can get you back to feeling in control of the experience and allow you to just enjoy the whole experience. Taking the pressure off maintaining an erection or having an orgasm and instead focusing on the bond you have with your partner.
If you would like more information on how hypnotherapy can help you get back in control and enjoy sex then please get in touch. I am now offering free 30 minute consultations done either via skype or phone. This is a great opportunity to ask any questions you may have and get some really detailed information on how hypnotherapy can help you to achieve your goals.